Treat time as a friend, and “metathink” about the career path I have traveled

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From childhood to adulthood, we make different choices every day, as small as deciding what to wear before going out? What’s for breakfast? How to get there? Do you want to reply immediately when you receive the letter? These choices of different sizes are like walking on different game maps every day, opening game scripts for ourselves in different directions, and then leading to different results.

For children who grew up in Taiwan, perhaps the first major decision in life is where to study in high school? In the first year of senior high school and in the second year of high school, should I choose the science group or the text group? What department do you want to study in university? Do you want to go to graduate school or go straight to employment? What industry should you choose to enter for your first job? However, behind the major choices that these adults tell us, it is actually our own time cost, and where we choose to bet time determines our gains and losses.

Taking stock of past study and career paths, at every turning point of choice, there will inevitably be times of confusion, perplexity, and overwhelm. There are also many setbacks in the job hunting process, whether it is submitting resumes, interviews that fail, or finding that the job you finally applied for does not match your enthusiasm or skills after entering the job. The feeling of being trapped by one’s own choices at the moment may be experienced by everyone more or less.

In the book “Treat time as a friend: no one can manage time, the only one you can really manage is yourself” by Liu Run, he mentioned:


Human rationality is based on accepting reality, and if one cannot accept reality, all growth is false. Only a strong person can accept the reality. Only by accepting the reality can it be possible to start using the mind to make rational decisions, and then it is possible to be a friend of time.


For example, every external communication in the workplace, whether it is upward, parallel, downward, or reporting to the boss, supervisor, or client, every feedback we get is the “reality” we get. No matter how many sleepless nights or sleepless nights we spend before a presentation, how much time we spend tweaking different versions or even carefully unifying styles, typography and fonts, the reality we get is no match for it.

The reality may be to be sent back, rejected, or even asked to start over with the entire proposal. The so-called “acceptance of reality” and the “meta-thinking” of taking one’s own thinking as the object of thinking are the beginning of our being able to base ourselves on reality and have more room to check that “reality” is not as good as expected.

Every company may have regular evaluation criteria, whether conducted quarterly, semi-annual or annual, may be vertical or parallel evaluation sources, or regular one-on-one interviews with supervisors, these are collected to form reality and to draw closer The way in which “others perceive themselves” and “self-perceived themselves” differ. It’s like a mirror that we use to organize our appearance before going out every day. Through the mirror, we can see ourselves clearly, and we can also see ourselves clearly in the eyes of others.

In our daily work or life, we can actually give ourselves dynamic “metathinking” evaluations. Whether we are judging our work results, business relationships, cultivating interests, or planning for the future, we can evaluate and choose , Take action, review the case, and give yourself effective evaluation and evaluation.

Just like we are on Google Maps, if we only locate our own location, we may only see the road ahead and the scenery on the left and right, but if we look at it from the perspective of Google Street View, maybe we can see nothing but the road ahead, The choice of different paths will also include the traffic flow, all nearby buildings and even the panorama of your own seat compared to other people’s seats.

“Meta-thinking” is actually like the Google street view we think about. It opens up 3D or even panoramic images for us, allowing us to have a more comprehensive understanding of the career path we have traveled and the life path that has not yet begun. The angle of view is also more able to truly know yourself in a situation that is in line with reality, and also treat time as your friend, and let time become a witness of your growth trajectory.

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