“Details of Dialogue with Workplace People Who Have the Last Laugh”: In the face of other people’s verbal attacks, use the principles of Aikido to push back your grievances

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Use Aikido Principles to Push Back Your Resentment

In fact, when you encounter someone who is habitually violent or deliberately criticizes others, avoiding him is the best way. But if it is a supervisor or colleague who has to face in the workplace, use the principles of Aikido to deal with it, so that you can avoid conflicts and protect yourself. Aikido is a sport that does not resist the opponent, but uses the reaction force of the opponent’s effort to protect oneself. Using the same principle to apply speaking skills, even if you are facing a person with a high social class, you can save yourself from his language attack. When the other party speaks and attacks you, don’t avoid or deny him. Instead, use the sentence to induce laughter, also known as the frontal exaggeration method, which is to exaggerate what the other party said and meet the attack head-on.


Use the other person’s words to push back

We can use the positive exaggeration method to ignore the other party’s rude words indifferently. The easier it is, the less it will affect you. First affirm that the other party is speaking very slowly, which is very frustrating, and then exaggerate: “I haven’t finished what I said last year because I spoke too slowly”, and the speaking speed is getting slower and slower. joke. Turning the ball thrown by the opponent into a joke like this makes the atmosphere much lighter at the moment.   “Your memory is really bad. How did you get into that school?” “You’re right, but which school did I go to? That… I can’t remember, who are you?”   Another advantage of positive exaggeration is that it can make people laugh without making yourself ridiculous. If you don’t deliberately want to find someone to quarrel with, generally speaking, it is difficult to continue to find fault with someone who agrees with what you say. If this happens, the uncomfortable topic will naturally be interrupted. Moreover, if there are other people around, compared with the unreasonable counterparty, they will take advantage of the situation to create a positive and optimistic image of you, which is really killing two birds with one stone. Celebrities always receive excessive attention on their appearance. However, there was once a celebrity who used positive exaggeration to show a calm and calm appearance, accumulating a positive image of himself. Actress Emma. When Emma Stone was nominated for an Academy Award for Best Supporting Actress for her film “Birdman,” a reporter told her in an interview, “You look beautiful today, too!” In fact, in past interviews, Emma. Stone once said that whether a person has a sense of humor or character is more important than appearance. From this, it can be seen that the above answer is actually a joke with the opposite meaning. She seemed to affirm what the other party said, but exaggerated it with the phrase “The most important thing is anyway”, which indirectly highlighted the problematic point of the reporter’s speech. Facing reporters who did not mention her works or acting skills but praised her appearance first, she tactfully expressed her opinion on appearance supremacy. When you don’t want to frown or mess up the mood, but want to express yourself, a humorous response is often the best way to go. There was also a case where the other party apologized after affirming the other party’s rude words. A Hollywood actor Lucas. Lukas Gage conducted an interview selection through a video conference. As soon as Gage went online, the other party immediately said: “The apartments that poor people live in are so small!” Because the director forgot to press mute, Gage heard all he said to the people around him. Hearing this, Gage smiled and replied: The director repeated in panic: “I’m sorry.” Gage said: “You don’t have to be sorry, I do live in a box, you just need to give me a job.” By exaggerating the house into a box, he humorously Get through this uncomfortable situation. In the face of rude words, as long as we don’t get angry or hurt, and respond happily, it will highlight the impoliteness of the other party. People responded well to Gage’s positive attitude.


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This article is excerpted from “The Dialogue Details of Workplace People Who Have the Last Laugh: No Longer Getting Angry to Internal Injury, Mistakes and Dark Suffering, Korea’s Strongest Broadcasting Host Responds to Keeping the Bottom Line Without Offending People”, Da Shi Culture Publishing Author: Cui Yishan Translator: Chen Yanhua

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